Monday, December 2, 2013

Got to Kiss alot of Toads

Got to Kiss Alot of Toads

Have you heard that phrase?
You got to kiss alot of toads before you find your prince
I remember when I was much younger a girlfriend explaining don't fret over lost love another love was coming
I even remember another saying that there are plenty of fish in the sea
So the question I poise is are you settling for a toad passing for a prince or is he really the prince?
I see women at various stages of their lives and they just give up or give in
They decide that they want to be in a relationship so some will dumb up
Meaning that they downplay intelligence
They don't share their true value for fear of rejection
If they have acquired assets they will tell the male they lie and say they don't
Who wants to be in a relationship where you are starting off with lies
I remember my parents stating that you have to be evenly yokes
Meaning you have the same values
You have the same morals
You acquire to want to both elevate each other
Times have changed where women are now in more leadership roles at work
They are coming into situations where they have to be aggressive
That doesn't mean that they still don't want to be courted
That doesn't mean that because she travels, is educated, and has some coins in her pocket that she is trying to reverse the roles and have a kept man
I am not giving up on the prince
He's out there and he has to find me not the other way around
Do I really have to kiss alot of toads?
Is there a secret that needs to be shared?
He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing
So let me put some Oh Baby Mac Lip gloss
Can't tell which toad is going to turn into the prince but practice makes perfect

by Patricia A. Saunders
Self Published Author of Loving Me and Through the Fire

Friday, November 15, 2013

Being Thankful

Being Thankful

by Patricia A. Saunders 

Thanksgiving is around the corner in a couple of weeks 
And I am seeing posts on Facebook where people are saying each day what they are thankful for
Its more than sitting around the table eating your favorite sweet potato pies, turkey and ham
Growing up I remember my Mother staying up late making sure all of our favorite dishes were done to perfection
She would get dressed up on Thanksgiving and my Father dress slacks and shirt and we would be so excited.
When it was time to do the blessing I always hated it because my Mother took so long. I was starving and ready to dive into the candied yams, greens and ham.
So now as an adult, having lost both parents the holidays bring up so many emotions.
I am thankful to see another year
I am thankful for having a roof over my head because there was a time I was on the brink of being homeless
I am thankful for food in my refrigerator because there was a time that I could open it and hear a echo
I am thankful for each one of my siblings those gone and the ones still here because it takes a village to raise a child
I am thankful for my job that I wasn't looking for and glad I answered my company phone that day
I am thankful for my friends who have let me cry, laugh, and share a good glass of wine with
As I have gotten older I realize why my Mother's prayers were so long. She was thankful for each child to be around the table, not dead,  and not in jail. She was thankful for our health and she was thankful that through it all she had made it.
I can hear her so passionate about thanking the Lord for another year. I can feel her squeezing my hand as the anointing came over her and I understand now why.
Not everyday was perfect but she didn't complain. She was living in her house that she owned that was across the street from the house she cleaned as a maid.
Before there a movie called "The Help" she lived it and by the grace of God the situation turned around and there she was waving good morning to them.  I look to hills from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord.
Being thankful is more than the dinner.Its more than football. It's more than running to the mall.
Being thankful is giving thanks for everything. We really should give thanks daily. There was someone who didn't wake up this morning.
Let me fall down on my knees because I am truly being thankful.

Patricia A. Saunders is Author of Loving Me and Through the Fire

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Through The Fire Book Trailer - Patricia Saunders

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

A Lifetime

A Lifetime

You heard the saying a person comes into your life for a reason, season and or a lifetime. 
It could be something good or bad and you will hear the same saying. 
I have had friends that I felt were my besties to later find out that they were only there for a reason. 
The reason could be to teach me about trust. It could have been to show me how to step out of self. 
I have fallen in love more times than I want to admit 
I can hear my older female friends console me and say "Girl , He was only in your life for a season" another season is coming. 
With all the wavering of relationships that I have come to face one thing. 
Someone from when I was a child to now as an adult has always been the same
He was put in my life for a reason to love me unconditionally
I see the beauty in all the seasons that he shown me
I can't complain when I am in the storm because the sunshine always outweighs the pain
He teaches me daily that with every reason there is a lesson
When the season comes to enjoy it and if there is a heart break he is there to heal it
See I am in love for a lifetime with Life
See I have some friends that have weathered the storm with me and I hope and pray that they stay for a lifetime but there is no guarantee
I would love to have a mate for a lifetime but if God doesn't see it than I have to believe I am living my purpose now. 
Don't mean to preach to anyone but just know that when everyone walks out for their reason or season
Look up for someone who is there for a lifetime.... Jesus

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Count down to 6 months

Count Down to Six Months

I was visiting my sister who celebrated one year of being cancer free. It was also her birthday and we were sitting at the table just talking. Laughing about things in life, her giving me advice about work, love, and finances. She said something and it struck me. I glossed over it and continued the conversation about work. I couldn't sleep that night because the words were powerful. "If you had 6 months to live are you content with your life?".

I called her back the following morning and she elaborated on what she meant. I wanted to know more about what she meant.  She said if you always wanted to go to the Bahamas. Go to the Bahamas. It made me think if you got the diamond earrings put up for a special occasion get them out and wear them. Lastly if there is something you always wanted to do but was afraid because of what others would think, say, or your own anxiety. Just do It!!! Life is too short and isn't promised to no man or woman. We always walk around saying what if, one day, and I shoulda coulda woulda into my future.

I don't know if it struck because here is someone who wasn't looking for cancer. She was persistent that they run tests and I was requested more than once to come and pray for her. Here was my big sister who I leaned on for strength now leaning on me. The flood gates opened because I am thinking does she know something and isn't telling me? I then had to laugh because with faith there is no fear. I had prayed, left the fear in 2012, and was praising into 2013. I refused to think negative and take the advice from my elder sister who has seen the world, who has been tested with challenges, and came through stating that she is grateful.

I then sat down and wrote out my plans for the next 6 months. I was thinking if it was to end in six months there were some things I still wanted to do. I am getting the jewelry out to start wearing, I am calling my travel agent to book that trip, and I am letting the walls down that have protected me for so many years. If I was to die in 6 months I want to say I am at peace, I am loved, and I did it my way!!!!

Now that doesn't mean that people just spend their life savings because no one knows when they will leave this earth. What I take it to mean is that you have no regrets, be humble, and lastly when it's all over you can say "I am at peace with myself".

Just do it !!!!

Patricia Saunders

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Blessed & Curvy: Scandal or Not

Blessed & Curvy: Scandal or Not: So the craze is Scandal Everyone is glued to their screens to see Olivia and Fritz The outfits she is going to wear and see them sell of t...

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Scandal or Not

So the craze is Scandal
Everyone is glued to their screens to see Olivia and Fritz
The outfits she is going to wear and see them sell of the racks within hours
What will happen next where is Jake, will Huck spring into action, and will her Daddy fly her to Brazil
More and more people are at the water cooler talking about Millie being a smart dedicated wife
Fritz dropping her name to Secret Service
Questions about Olivia being a slut because she is having an affair
Are we being influenced to think that it's okay?
Scandal or Not?
Have we become a society where we glamorize power with affairs?
What about thou shall not commit adultery?
Those who have power can have an affairs and be seen as okay?
Are those with power going to call on a Sally to help ease the acceptance
I love Olivia because of her style, I love her for her education, and her leadership
I love Scandal because of the action, the characters that are played, but while talking to my girlfriends they asked me so you like an assassin (Huck), a mistress (Olivia), and a cheater ( Fritz) and I am ashamed to say it but Yes!!!!

I like speeding home to be in front of the TV to see her walking across the street in her Burberry coat, dressed to the nine with her red lipstick on. Chatting on Facebook with my East Coast friends on each interaction.

Give me Scandal but just for TV

Friday, October 4, 2013

Second Chances

Second Chances

Sometimes you have to stop and go back and smell the roses
Speeding through life you might miss things like the twinkle of your love one's eyes
You might miss someone saying I love you
You might rush so much that you miss important things that you can't get back

You have been given a second chance
So take up that hobby you always wanted
Go on that vacation you dreamed of
Start saving for that nest egg
Don't take life for granted

When the world starts spinning out of control
I find that I retreat into my comfort zone
I start cooking
I start inviting family over to be around me
I need more wet kisses from my great nephew
I need my hugs from my lover to comfort me
I stop and take in all that is around me

I find items that I had thought I lost
I come across cards and letters from my deceased Mother
I open up the shoe box with poems and letters from my first love
The sunset has a new glow that I have never seen
The butterflies appear to follow me
I look to the hills from which my help comes from and my help comes from

Taking Second Chances

Be Blessed

Patricia A. Saunders


Monday, September 23, 2013


People are always so private
Not sharing anything but with their circles
I learned to share
I share from experience
I share for resource
I share to help others

I found that when I kept things to myself
I was feeling alone
I was feeling isolated
I was feeling that I was the only one

When I shared I learned that there were others going through it
I found that there were others who knew answers
I might not know all the answers to everything but....
By sharing I am learning

Patricia Saunders

Friday, September 20, 2013


It has been a crazy week to say the least but I am still thankful. I am thankful that I am in my right mind, have friends and family, and I am employed.

I reflect on the week and there was the shooting at the Navy Yard in DC and it makes me wonder last Friday what was Mr. Alexis thinking.

What thoughts were crossing his mind?

Most of us are either going out with our friends on Friday night. Hey you want to meet for drinks? Yes. We go and unwind, laugh, talk about whatever.

We are driving home to be with our families. Kids tell me about your day. Honey how was your day.

We are happy that the week is over and thinking about the following week so distant.

I don't mean to come across so heavy but it makes you think.

Mental Illness is what they blame made him do this awful thing.

What are your thoughts?

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Thursday is a day closer

Have you counted the days to the weekend?
I know for myself everyone is laughing about the camel walking through the office saying it's Hump Day but what about Thursday.

I am sitting here almost about to run out the door and I can't wait for Friday. It's the beginning of the weekend.

The weekend is my ME time