5 steps to stay motivated when you're ready to quit
After the passing of my mother I found myself in a deep
depression. I didn't want to continue to be active in this thing we call life.
My motivation was gone along with her because as her caregiver what was I now
to do? I felt lost. Also I was self
employed running a business from my home office so I didn’t want to promote,
network or make any sales. No sales meant no income. I knew I had to snap out
of it but didn’t know where to begin.
Being a private person I didn’t know how to ask for help.
Its years later and I find working now in Corporate America I
still come across both men and women who go through stress, life struggles and
still try to stay focused on top of their corporate game. More and more I read
in the news that when the world feels like it is grumbling around you and you
have no outlet you quit one way or another. You either quit your job,
relationships or life.
Here are the five steps that I learned and hope that it
helps someone.
1.
Find your support. It can be your friends, family
members or support groups to talk about whatever it is. You can also seek
professional help by talking to a licensed therapist. Your primary doctor can
give you referral; your employer should also have Employee Assistance Programs.
2.
Self Care- doesn’t mean that you have to spend money
going to a spa. It could be you picking time alone to read, meditate, pamper
yourself by taking a long bath in Epsom salts, light scented candles, and if
you want to get a massage go to a massage school where the cost will be
nominal.
3.
Exercise- when you’re stress or depressed taking long
walks, going to the gym or downloading exercise videos where you can do them at
home. I found an app where I can do mediation whenever I find the tension is
building up. I have an app on my phone to record my steps and my goal is 10,000
daily. I feel so much better being outside enjoying the views.
4.
Journal- reflection on your emotions by writing your
thoughts down helps. Sometimes there are words you want to say that you can’t
vocalize. There are feelings that I want to express and I have a journal next
to my bed, one in my briefcase and I always take one with me on vacation. When I wrote my first book majority of my
work came from my journal. I was later able to see how far I had advanced because
there were times that I felt situations was unjust and when I had the courage
to speak on them I was able to tell the dates, times and when incidents had
happened.
5.
Faith- no matter what faith you believe in having the
belief that there will be a better day. When I was at my darkest moments
crying, praying and reading my bible I was able to find comfort. Whenever I had
self doubt I would hum a hymnal to take my mind off of the situation. I also
had my church family praying with me. Not having to divulge what I was going
through but knowing that I had a prayer partner at times had me to take the
attention off of myself and focus on praying for them as well.
No matter what the situation is you’re never in it alone. I
have talked to individuals who quit their jobs or have been fired from jobs and
when they got another told me how relieved they were. If they had known at the
time when they were crying at their desks at the old job that there was a
brighter side.
Studies show that suicide rates are on the increase and
people always say if only I knew the person was in crisis I could have helped.
Your body will let you know when you have taken on too much
by panic attacks, high blood pressure, heart attacks.
Relationships suffer because of lack of communication, money or constant arguing because the person they want to yell at they can't so the spouse takes the abuse.
If this blog reaches one person to let them know there are
steps to keep you sane and that you’re not alone in this journey we call life.
There is a better day I promise you.
Patricia A. Saunders is a certified life coach that speaks
on women’s issues and inclusion. She is
also an Award Winning Author that writes poetry and nonfiction. Her next book
is going to be released in Spring 2020 called 4 Seasons of Love.
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